Focusing on court: Getting the custody schedule you want

Posted by Lauren S. CohenApr 23, 20200 Comments

As a man, you may have the impression that the courts are going to look at you less favorably than your child's mother. That's not true, and in fact, bias is not allowed in the court system. It's important for you to take steps to build a strong case for custody, yes, but not because the cards are stacked against you.

Instead, think of this as a great opportunity to show what a wonderful parent you are and why it matters to you that you get time with your child. Be realistic and fair, and that will shine through in court.

How can you put together a strong case for custody?

There are a few things you can do to boost your case including:

  • Getting teachers, medical providers or others who have met you to write letters or messages to the court about your role in your child's life
  • Appearing in court well-dressed and clean
  • Showing up for court on time
  • Being respectful to your (ex) spouse and the judge, as well as others you interact with, in court.
  • Ask for the custody time you want with supporting documentation to show that you will be available for your child
  • Showing that you have space and the financial support to provide for your child

These are just some of the things you may want to do or to show to the court to prove that you have your child's best interests in mind while seeking custody. As a father, you have as much of a right as your child's mother to see them, and you should assert that right in court.