It’s always stressful to consider divorce as the next step of your marital relationship. Many parents actually try to avoid divorce until the children have left for college or moved out to spare additional upheaval. However, staying together for the sake of the children may not always be the best option for you or them. But new research is indicating that the harmful effects of divorce are not just limited to emotional distress. What should you do?
Arguments and silence result in long-term effects
A recent study found that adults whose parents went through a bitter divorce that resulted in no contact between the two parties suffered a negative impact on their mature immune systems. It can be disconcerting to realize that the never-ending arguments and slamming doors may have a measurable effect on your child’s future health. You may even think twice about filing the divorce papers, but hesitation is not always your best choice.
Safety is always first
This study found that adults of divorced parents might be more susceptible to getting a cold or other contagious diseases. Deciding to remain in an abusive relationship just to avoid this possible future side effect is simply not a good idea. Should you be facing a home where emotional and physical harm is coming to you or your children, it is time to leave regardless of future repercussions.
It pays off to work harder at an amicable separation
The good news out of this study is that parents who maintained at least some kind of cordial relationship after divorce raised children who were just as healthy as families who remained together. Taking the time to negotiate a fair divorce settlement and custody agreement is therefore worth the effort, as everybody in the extended family will benefit in the long run.