It is human nature to compare ourselves to others. Among the situations in which this instinct can raise its head is in a divorce. For example, when a divorcing individual is negotiating a financial settlement with their ex or just reached such a settlement, they may be tempted to look to the divorce settlements their friends or family members have gotten in the past as benchmarks for whether they are getting or have gotten a “good deal.”
When a couple with kids splits, one thing that will be a big part of their and their kids’ future is what type of arrangement they settle in on regarding where the kids will live and when each of the two parents will spend time with the kids. When coming up with such an arrangement, it is critical for parents to focus on what is best for their kids.