A recent article reminds us that legal custody awards might sometimes be made to individuals other than a child's biological parents. In some situations, for example, grandparents might also seek custody rights. However, a court will likely require some evidence of why a grandparent should be appointed as a guardian.
New York is a state where, at divorce, marital property is divided "equitably" between the spouses. Basically, "equitable" means "fair," and often marital property is not divided equally.